| Simple effective ways to deal with your perfectionism, say "no" so you don't take on too much, express your anger, stop giving advice, support those in grief, stop trying to save others,tell others exactly what you want from them -- all in ways that leave you feeling good about yourself | The information the author offers, if you apply it, can change your life in so many satisfying ways |
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| Negative, indirect, manipulative " I cringed reading the first half of the book and especially on the first few "mistakes" because I so see myself in this book | and try not to lose ourselves |
Simple effective ways to deal with your perfectionism, say "no" so you don't take on too much, express your anger, stop giving advice, support those in grief, stop trying to save others,tell others exactly what you want from them -- all in ways that leave you feeling good about yourself.
12| The MOST helpful for me was the section on Assertive vs | Especially the way it is worded with no reason |
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| Anyone with children knows the more you tell them over and over to pick up their toys, the more they meltdown | I have never seen it laid out so clearly |
Perhaps it was a subliminal attempt to sidestep dealing with my own issues by focusing on other people problems.
11| It has DRASTICALLY improved my communication with people around me | It is so true that I got this in my family education |
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| I have often been frustrated about the way people talk to me | Such compelling assertions, because they are clear, honest, and respectful, tend to make others want to give you what you want, desire and deserve |
Seeing the difference between them can free us to tell others what we want.
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